Satan uses our intrinsic drive to be right and our competitive nature to win in any type of conflict to trap us in our own minds. There are few that hear a truth about a flaw of their own and think soberly concerning it. There aren’t many who defeat their ego (flesh), their fear of discovering their fallacy (flesh), their hatred of submitting to counsel (flesh), and their disdain for having to apologize for doing wrong (flesh). All of those things are PRIDEFUL works of the flesh and the Bible gives a guarantee of what follows pride–destruction.
The reasons we, and I’m speaking particularly to people of God, can carry on for extended seasons in a way that is in direct conflict with the Will and Word of God and in a way that is guaranteed by God to destroy us are very clearly pointed out in Scripture.
Many times, because of pride, we actually do not see the huge issues in our own life.
Luke 6:42 KJV
Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye.
Proverbs 21:2 KJV
Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the LORD pondereth the hearts.
Proverbs 16:2 KJV
All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the Lord weigheth the spirits.
Some of us are so self-righteous; no human can get through our pride to our sensibilities!
In the familiar story of Job in the Bible, God allowed Satan to have his way in Job’s life because Job had a character flaw that he couldn’t see. His friends didn’t recognize it either but they knew that there had to be something in Job’s life that he wasn’t recognizing. They spent 7 days in silence empathizing with Job and his suffering. Then they did the best they could to try to help him figure out why he was going through. They didn’t know what it was and they couldn’t get him to consider the possibility that he had something in his life that he needed to adjust. It got to the point where they just gave up!
Job 32:1 So these three men stopped answering Job, because he was righteous in his own eyes.
Job was so full of himself that he even challenged God to find something wrong with him!
Job 31:6 …let God weigh me in honest scales and he will know that I am blameless—
Job wasn’t being dishonest; he genuinely couldn’t see that he was self-righteous!
…and then there are times that when someone tells us something that we are wrong concerning, but negative emotions cause us to miss the right solution.
3 In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the LORD.
4 And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The LORD looked with favor on Abel and his offering,
5 but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.
6 Then the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast?
7 If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”
8 Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.
In these verses, we can clearly see that Cain’s problem was Cain yet he was bitter against God and jealous against his brother, Abel. Even after God gave Cain the solution to his problem, Cain failed to see that he should follow God’s counsel because of his bitterness, jealousy, and anger.
Pride is deadly.
It would behoove us to try to be objective when considering whether we are right or wrong.
2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
3 For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.
No one is totally right or wrong. No one knows everything. We all know this and believe this for the most part but there is still the drive to prove ourselves right and righteous as if there is no possible chance that we’re wrong. This is insanity! Don’t help Satan ruin your life by giving him the tools to do so. Don’t allow your pride, bitterness, anger, jealousy, and hatred to be the very tools he uses to bring about your fall.